Becoming happy is like learning any skill. The more you work on it, the happier you'll be.
"Happiness is a journey, not a destination; happiness is to be found along the way not at the end of the road, for then the journey is over and it's too late. The time for happiness is today, not tomorrow." Quoted by Paul H Dunn
You can actually train yourself to be happy. Happiness is a choice, you can choose to be cheerful and take steps to become happier regardless of what's happened or what people have done to you.
"The happiness of your life depends on the quality of your thoughts: therefore, guard accordingly, and take care that you entertain no notions unsuitable to virtue and reasonable nature." Marcus Aurelius
"Happiness is a conscious choice, not an automatic response." Mildred Barthel
"Joy has nothing to do with material things, or with a man's outward circumstances ... A man living in the lap of luxury can be wretched, and a man in the depths of poverty can overflow with joy."
That's because you can re-programme your subconscious. When you repeat this sentence to yourself through the day, your subconscious starts to believe it.
It's even more effective if you engage your emotions in the process and believe that it's possible. Try smiling while you say it. There's lots of evidence to suggest that it really does work. Why not try it? It's easy to remember and the least it will do is put you in a better mood.
If you're not feeling particularly happy, try filling your mind with happy thoughts and acting as though you are happy.
"A cheerful disposition is good for your health" Proverbs 17:22
"Summing it all up, friends, I'd say you'll do best by filling your minds and meditating on things true, noble, reputable, authentic, compelling, gracious - the best, not the worst; the beautiful, not the ugly; things to praise, not things to curse." Phillipians 4:8
Try acting as though you're happy until you really are.
If you've never tried this, try it now.
Force a big smile and hold it. You'll feel subtle changes if you hold it long enough. Notice the difference it makes to the way you feel.
Smiling helps you to relax, boosts your immune system and gives you a surge of energy.
If you smile when you don't feel like smiling, you'll still get the benefits. So, if you have to, force yourself to smile and keep on smiling. You'll start to generate positive emotions, feel better about yourself and be a more enjoyable person to be around.
Get started on your happiness journey today.
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