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How to deal with disappointment
August 09, 2020
I bless you with hope and love that never lets go.

My prayer for you is that today's coaching moment will give you keys to help you to deal with disappointments more effectively.

These are strange days aren't they... so many of the things we take for granted aren't possible right now. Life is throwing a lot of curve balls. There's so much unrest and uncertainty... but God is still on the throne and He WILL turn what the enemy means for our harm to our good as we continue to trust and believe even though.

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How to deal with disappointment

Practical steps to help you get past the pain of disappointment and set yourself up for success.

Admit how you feel and talk about it to a trusted friend

When you stifle the emotions associated with disappointment you can end up becoming pessimistic and moody.

So find somebody you can trust who is a good listener, and be honest about the pain you're feeling. When you express the hurt and frustration, you'll be less likely to resort to passive aggressive tactics to make yourself heard.

Take your focus off the disappointment and focus on the things you’re thankful for instead

When you're struggling with disappointment you tend to focus on what you've lost, what you don't have, what went wrong... but that magnifies things and digs you deeper in. You'll find it more helpful to redirect your focus away from the onslaught of negative emotions.

Try deliberately turning your attention to being thankful for what you DO have, what's RIGHT about your life, the people who love you, the progress you're making...

"Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honourable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise." Philippians 4:8

Choose to change your attitude

Instead of giving in to feelings like, it's not fair, I'm really struggling with this, it's awful and there's nothing I can do about it...

As hard as it might be, drop the negativity and stop expressing it because it doesn't help. "I'm going to speak positively even though I feel really sad about this."

Check in with God and ask,

"What's a small step I can take today to move forward?"
"What can I do that's proactive?"

Remind yourself that you are enough

Disappointment is sometimes a result of buying into the myth of perfection. We sometimes hold ourselves to ridiculously high standards and set ourselves up to fail. When we don't reach that high standard of perfection, we feel like we've failed, and that sometimes leads to a deep sense of shame.

Spend time reminding yourself how valuable you are and thinking about moments in your life that prove you ARE enough. Who does God say you are?

What if you changed your definition of success from perfection to progress?

Are you expecting something from family, people, work, church... that's unrealistic? The problem with defining success by desired outcomes instead of by GROWTH and IMPROVEMENT is that it makes us vulnerable to feeling like we're a failure, and that opens the door to unnecessary pain.

What if you allowed yourself to define success as 'doing better today than I did yesterday' and changed your goal to making progress your priority?

When you do that it sets you up for success. It helps you to get past the fear of failure and resist the temptation to compare your life to other peoples.

I encourage you to try out some of these strategies and let me know how they help. If you've found other ways of dealing with disappointment I'd love to hear about them.

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Blessings to persevere, and overcome, and live life fulfilled.



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